Yes, my kid has severe allergies, but please stop feeling sorry for him and me, and give me a chance to tell you why. When we figured out that my son was extremely allergic to peanuts and all nuts, it was shocking to say the least because no one in our family suffers from such allergies and none of our friends’ kids have it. We had to learn to use an epiphen and understand that his allergies are so extreme that he could die if we don’t take precautions.
Thankfully he has never had a crisis and he is old enough now to know to ask if anything has nuts. I sometimes have felt so guilty, did I cause it? My perfect daughter has nothing, and I ate the same foods and she was a C-section just like my son. Of course I feel bad for my little buddy; sometimes at school he can’t eat cupcakes and forget about eating the school lunch, I packed his safe lunch to eat. And field trips are another nightmare. But although, I feel guilty for this, though it’s not my fault, let me tell you why you should stop feeling sorry for him and us. As a family, we have changed our diets, we don’t have any foods with nuts or peanuts, we can’t go to Asian restaurants because they cook with peanut oil, and my son will never know the joy of a simple peanut butter and jelly sandwich but we’ve learned that it’s OK. We’ve learned to live with it. And now, I would like to tell the world that if we are OK, you should be OK with it too and please don’t feel sorry my son – he’s great and perfect.
I’m tired of explaining it to people and going through the same story over and over again – I know you want to know and I don’t mind telling the story, but understand that parents of children with severe allergies don’t enjoy explaining the reality of their lives numerous times. Really people, it’s cool, they are parents with real problems out there. If your kid has a peanut allergy you just learn to live with it, like my dad for example, he lives with diabetes, or my sister who doesn’t have a thyroid. The only thing I ask is awareness, but I’m not about to start handing out stay strong bands for peanut allergies.
There are many many children in the USA with peanut allergies, and they learn to live with them. All we ask as parents of these kids is one don’t feel sorry for us and two, that you are just aware of it. We only hope you can maybe think about the ingredients you are going to include in cupcakes, home made cookies and if you do include nuts, that’s fine, just let us know – believe me, we don’t get mad, we are so thankful if you tell us in advance if anything that you have prepared has nuts. That’s all we ask, a little awareness and for you to know that we as a family of an allergic child, we are good, and we are doing our best to teach our little ones to live with the condition.
I still have high hopes that in the very near future science will design a vaccine or a pill that can stop these allergies, and then, my baby boy will experience the joy of having a peanut butter and jelly sandwich! let’s hope and dream for that.