Most of us think that the best years are when our kids are small and they can’t really talk back and attach action to their words. And as parents we would like to skip the terrible teenage years.
I can relate, I mean I hated middle school and I don’t know one soul who enjoys the years between 11 to 14 but we all go through it. Common sense will tell you that if those years are bad on teens, they must be super bad for the parents also. But I differ, and I’ll tell you why.
But first, allow me to digress and share with you a piece of advise that my mother-in-law shared with me when I had my first kid, she said “it never gets easier, but different…” – meaning it’s always hard, but each phase is different.
I’m glad I got to enjoy all the firsts with my kids, and I loved spending every minute with them when they were little. It was a happy, fun time.
But now that my baby is almost six years old and my eldest is 10 years old, I can see that it hasn’t gotten easier but just different. And in that different phase, I get to do and enjoy new experiences by myself and with my much older kids.
For one thing, they are both independent of me in many ways. They can feed themselves, dress themselves, make their own choices in what they eat, wear, watch, read, etc.
They can help out in the house and that helps me tremendously – actually this is one of my favorite things to enjoy with older kids. They both have shores. They help setting dinner and picking up after meals. The put away their own laundry – I hate this one personally because I don’t enjoy laundry. period.
Another one that I love is that I can actually go out with my husband and not worry so much about what they eat, what they watch, how they feel when we leave them with a babysitter. I mean they are pretty independent.
Another great one, because my kids are only four years apart, they get to play together a lot and they entertain each other, so I don’t have to do the entertaining.
A big one, traveling and going out is a breeze and a joy. I remember when they were younger it was such a mission to travel anywhere, they would get bored, not eat, not sleep, needed a lot or help going to the bathroom. Guess what, not anymore. Road trips, airplane trips bring them on!
I’ll leave you with another experience, recently we went to a friend’s party and they had music, dancing, my kids just gravitated to their age group pals and they hanged and had fun. And you know what I did, I danced like crazy with my husband and had a blast without having to check on them every minute because they were doing their own thing.