But it’s not my fault!
Sound familiar? We all make excuses, but sometimes we can go overboard and even annoy ourselves. If you’re reading this, then you’re likely wanting to improve this part of your yourself, so first off congrats!
Some of excuses are legendary, like: “Sorry darling I’ve got a headache”! Others are pathetic, like “I don’t have time to go to the gym”, or “I’ll never get an executive position in the company because the boss doesn’t like me”. Worse still: “Oops, I forgot!”
So if you’re falling into the excuse trap now is the time get motivated and stop!
What are Excuses and why do we make them?
Essentially excuses are explanations that we put forward to justify something that we either feel – or know – is wrong, or less than perfect. You could say it’s a reason we give ourselves for not dealing with an unpleasant truth, often to avoid doing something that we in fact don’t want to do. The way it usually works is when we aren’t achieving or simply don’t want to do something, we make an excuse. If you are usually the type of person that doesn’t make excuses for everything, but find that lately you have, perhaps you are in a rut and just need to get out.
If you think about it, it’s an easy out.
Let’s take three typical excuses and analyze why someone might need to use these excuses, and then look at the possible implications.
- “I don’t have enough time to do x, y, or z”
- “Apologies for being late, my car broke down.”
- “I’m afraid I won’t be able to make the company’s annual general meeting because I have to be at home with my children.”
As they say, shit happens. But if you are motivated, you’ll find a way to address and overcome any sort of problem.
There are only 24 hours a day, no matter how you slice it or dice it. So we have to work backward from there. Let’s say you want to workout but you “don’t have enough time” first thing we need to do is prioritize. Below find a prioritization matrix, in it you can see what is urgent, important, and what is not. Start by thinking honestly of the things you need to do on a daily basis and classify them.
Whether you are man or woman, if you have children, there are going to be times when their needs will come first. But unless your child is sick and/or cannot be cared for by someone else for a few hours, missing an important function could have serious repercussions for you later. Never lose sight of the fact that there are hidden opportunities at every turn, and the best way to pass these up is to make an excuse not to be where you might encounter them!
Even when excuses are valid, people don’t often take kindly to them. On the other hand, if they can see you have made, or are making, a genuine attempt to solve the problems you have, most are likely to be considerably more understanding.
Apart from hard core real life problems, like breakdowns and illness, an incredible number of people make stupid excuses throughout their lives. These relate equally to everything in life, from unsuccessful relationships, unfulfilled work experiences, inadequate social skills, to failed goals relating to anything from getting fit and losing weight, to adequately (and lovingly) disciplining your children.
How often have your heard people say they don’t have time to do something? But the reality is that unless you make the time, you will never succeed, be it in business, with a relationship or anything else. If you believe you are lacking the time to do something you claim to be important, spend a week or more noting the time you spend doing nothing constructive. You might surprise yourself.
Then there are those who ascertain they are unable to achieve a goal because they simply don’t have the skills to do so. If you really want to do something, you’ll get some guidance, learn the skills, and stop making stupid excuses for your lack of motivation.
Another universal excuse is not having the funds to do something. Undoubtedly having a budget shortfall is a challenge, but if you want something badly enough, you’ll find a way to raise the funds – even if it takes a few years to save, or means taking a loan or finding a partner.
You’re a mom, you brought another human being into this world, surely you can get up and go workout-no more excuses!