How to feel appreciated? You want to know my secret, there is nothing better than speaking to a friend who’s in the same boat as you. You know why, because even if your husband, significant other, kids or extended family tell you that you are great or not, it never feels like they truly get it. But when you pick up the phone and talk to one of your girlfriends, you feel so great at the end of the call, even if you just realize that the both of you are as messed up as before you spoke to one another. The point is that only another mom can get you – I know I get this great feeling of appreciation and happiness after I speak to one of my girlfriends – who are all moms by the way.
One thing you need to do is to choose to call the one that will speak to you with the truth and not sugar coat the experience of being a mom. Some of my girlfriends don’t want to admit that it’s dammed hard and lonely to be a mom. It’s like everyone wants a piece of you and you give them everything, but it’s expected and you rarely get a thanks. You know it’s true. So when I need a quick feeling of appreciation, that’s when I call my buddy, Mary and oh lord, is she fun! Her life is a mess of commitments and non-stop things to do. And she tells it like it is and that’s why I love her dearly. My kids are both in school and are pretty much independent in a way although, but her kids are still little – she has a baby, she works full time and never has time for herself.
But she’s so open about her life being a mess and telling me that it’s hard that we just get each other’s experiences. We both agree that it’s hard, and we tell each other everything about being a mom that nobody gets. I tell her I totally get her and that is freaking hard and I know she gets a feeling of appreciation and admiration from me. And you know what I get the same feeling of appreciation just from talking to her.
I’m not suggesting you find a friend who has a worse situation than you because that’s cruel, but find a friend that will speak to you with the truth. And then you can share, talk, cry and also laugh as loud as you can. You are going to feel so good after speaking to your girlfriend, so go pick up the phone and call her. Then come back and tell us all about it.