Why am I always tired?…Ops that’s right because I’m a mom. But I needed to find a solution to this tiredness that wouldn’t go away. It was more than physical fatigue, I was mentally and emotionally drained. But why? I’m not sick, my kids are great and healthy, my husband is the best, my work schedule is flexible, then I can’t complain, I don’t have a right to complain especially when there are mommies out there with real problems. Then it came to me, putting the guilt aside, I realized that I also needed time to myself by myself without anyone else. But the idea of taking time to be ourselves is a big sin for mommies because how dare we feel the need to leave our kids, husbands, jobs, house, friends, to be by ourselves doing something we love or not doing anything at all – this my friends is called “mommy guilt”.
So I decided to put aside, and accepted the fact that I do need time away from my kids, my husband, my home, my house, my job, and all that needs me. And I came up with top three ideas to have a mommy vacation by myself. I won’t go into detail as to why we need it just trust me if you are a mom, you need it. Think of it this way, our husbands or significant others take time sometimes to go fishing let’s say, well this is our version of it. Here are my top three ideas to have a mini-vacation by yourself, and then once you are done, I promise you will come back refreshed and ready to take on the world, or least your life back.
1. Stay in bed one day – pick one day, take the kids to school, kiss your husband goodbye, call in sick to work and stay home, go to bed and while in bed – watch TV, eat junk food, have wine at 11 am, look at old pictures, etc.
2. Spend a weekend at a fancy hotel by yourself – maybe for mother’s day or on your birthday you should rent a room at a fancy hotel, check in Saturday and check out Sunday, take a bath in total silence, watch TV in bed and order room service, invite your mom and girlfriends, but they have to swear to not contact with the outside world while you do this.
3. Disappear for a Saturday – kiss your kids and husband good bye, get in your car, drive and go have breakfast, go see a friend, go to the mall, buy something for you – you must and don’t under any circumstances buy anything for your kids – fight the urge!, go to lunch, go back to the mall, go to the movies with a friend or sister, go have coffee and read a book at barnes and nobles, and go back to your house in late evening.
While you do these things you will feel extremely guilty, unworthy, and what a bad human being you are – accept it, ignore it, move on, and enjoy this as selfishly as your heart desires – You must fight the urge to feel like a bad mom and consequently a bad human being, remember you are doing this because you earned it, and when you go back to them, you will be a happier mommy and a happier mommy translates to a happier everything!